Ladies, heads up: The city’s artsy mad men are out and about! We’re talking the guys with perfectly curated Instagram feeds, alte vibes, poetry quotes on a Tuesday, and yes, even the queer queens serving looks and charm in equal measure.

If you’re ready to date in the creative jungle and wondering, ‘How do I relate with this alte artsy person?’ We got you! Here’s your playful guide to surviving the scene, having fun, and staying fabulous.

Don’t Just Survive The Artsy Dating Scene–Slay It!&nbsp;

Yes, yes, the gallery-hopping life is cute. You can go a bit extra to impress your date by reading a bit on the showing artists, art styles, and meanings. Take selfies, enjoy the art, ask questions (even if you have no clue what that installation actually is), and let the vibes do the work. Check out <a href="https://www.instagram.com/artxlagos/?hl=en">ART X Lagos</a> or <a href="https://www.instagram.com/omenkagallery/?hl=en">Omenka Gallery</a> for inspo. Bonus points for enjoying the aesthetics without pretending to be an expert.

If your date shows wearing something that seems ridiculous and just very confusing, and you’re holding your laughter, just… laugh. You don’t have to pretend to “get” everything. And instead of just laughing and making them feel bad, you can also get curious. Ask them what inspires their style, tell them what inspires yours. Fashion is fun and makes for excellent conversation, so soak it all in and enjoy, even if it’s not to your taste.&nbsp;

Poetry quotes at midnight, playlist recommendations, obscure film suggestions…&nbsp; dating an artsy person will have you questioning if you’re falling in love or just curating a new aesthetic. One minute you’re watching French films you don’t understand, next you’re at an art show in Yaba pretending to “feel the emotion” behind a painting that looks like spilled palm oil.&nbsp; This is your chance to expand your vibe, learn something new, and maybe steal a few good ideas for your own Insta feed.&nbsp;

Some of these creative mad men and artsy baddies are hilarious, so expect memes, playful banter, and inside jokes that might go over your head. They might send you tweets and find it hilarious, expecting that you get it. It’s okay to not get it. A quick search using ChatGPT or Grok might really help—or just ask them straight up. Don’t overthink it, just flow with it, and in no time, you’ll become an expert insider.

The queer creatives in this scene are giving confidence, style, and personality. Enjoy their energy, style tips, and humor. With queer partners, it’s usually soft life with substance: intentional love, and unmatched fashion, the kind that makes you feel seen, heard, and maybe a little more in tune with yourself. They bring ease, depth, and a touch of drama that keeps life interesting and beautifully chaotic.

At the end of the day, dating in Lagos is basically living in a television series you didn’t audition for, but one thing is sure, you’ll learn, laugh, roll your eyes, maybe steal a few fashion hacks along the way and if you’re lucky, somewhere in the middle of the gallery hopping or playlist debates, you might just catch a little romance that makes all the madness worth it.

Late-night poetry, gallery hops, and curated playlists, dating Lagos creatives is wild, fun, and full of vibes. Here’s how to handle it.

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