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Just like many other things in life, love is not a competition. Not between you and your partner—but that’s gist for another day—and definitely not between your partner and your friends. Unless you want either relationship to suffer, there should be no basis for comparison.

You still owe your friends as much time and attention as you owed them before your<a href="https://aura.ng/life-and-love/the-sweetest-relationship-advice-that-s-secretly-ruining-your-love-life"> relationship</a>. Simply because, until you officially terminate the friendship, you’re responsible for being the type of friend you want. While your man deserves your attention too, the girlies don’t have to be the foregone alternative.

It becomes very evident when you’re beginning to put one party above the other. It creeps up in how easily you’re able to cancel on your friends just because your man suddenly called and invited you to hang out. Or how you no longer pay attention to your friends because you’re too busy texting him when you should be bonding with them.

Love is a deliberate and active decision. Be it platonic or <a href="https://aura.ng/the-streets/the-nigerian-marriage-checklist-nobody-talks-about-but-everyone-uses">romantic</a>, you are responsible for treating your people well. Don’t sacrifice your friends to entertain your mister. Honour your friends’ dignity and their trust in you at all costs. Because, at the end of the day, you are responsible for how he sees them.

Please, resist the urge to allow your life to revolve around a man. Chances are, the earliest stages of your relationship will come to consume you. You’ll be tempted to lose yourself by neglecting your personal interests and goals just to ensure your partner is always satisfied and you have all his attention.

Don’t forget to hold your support group very close while pursuing your life’s purpose. “Sisters Before Misters” is not a threat to your relationship. It is a reminder that loving your partner should never come at the expense of the people who loved you long before they arrived. Make your days count by counting them with your day ones… <a href="https://aura.ng/culture/why-keeping-friends-as-an-adult-is-harder-than-anyone-warned-you">sisters</a>!

“Sisters before misters” isn’t about friendship vs romance. It’s about refusing to lose yourself when love arrives.


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